“We have all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the path we choose to act on, that’s who we really are.” Even though these are the words of a fictional character they are very wise none the less.
Hate can be a difficult feeling to handle either when it’s directed towards us or when we direct it to someone else. It can be frustrating to get this feeling under wraps so here we go.
The first three are for when you hate someone and the latter three are for when someone hates you.
Embrace it
Well, you hate someone. So what? Hate is a feeling we all have to feel at some point. Hate is shown as a bad feeling but actually, it is very powerful when used right. It can drive you to do better because as humans we love proving someone we hate wrong. Accepting you hate someone for whatever reason is step one to self-improvement.
Instead of focusing on the negative energy hate emits focus on the energy that drives you to do better. Embrace what you feel and push yourself to excel.
Don’t try to one-up them
We hate losing, that’s the bottom line. We have always knowing competition from a young age and we always want to be No. 1. If all your focus is on winning and trying to one-up your opponent when will you enjoy and learn from the process?
Self-improvement shows the most growth. If you’re confident and focused on what you do everyone will notice it, including those you hate. They won’t acknowledge it and may even put you down, but you don’t need their stamp of approval to know your worth.
Look within yourself
If this hate you feel towards someone is too much to take then it's time you find out why. What is it about them that set’s you off? Is it a misunderstanding or a legit reason? (or you just don’t like their existence)
Whatever it may be hate can spark a real fire within you. It will affect your actions and know it can do more harm than good if you don’t use it right.
It’s unavoidable
We try and try to find out why someone may hate us but to no avail. Here’s the thing, if someone wants to hate you no matter what you do they will find any and every reason to do so.
When and if you find out why they hate you use that to your advantage. If it’s something you did unintentionally, maybe apologize, it does not make you a smaller person. If the reasons invalid Let. It. Go. Don’t waste your time and energy on that.
Find the reason
Confrontation isn’t easy but if things get too much for you it’s better to ask them upfront. It can be a simple matter of jealousy and that is something you can’t help the other person with.
In a fight, someone may say hurtful things and they won’t always be true. But on the off chance it is then you may want to reconsider your words and actions. This will be more beneficial for you than anyone else.
Stand up for yourself
No one will stand up for you if you can’t do that yourself. Never let anyone walk over you and take advantage of you.
If someone insults you, you don’t need to insult them back that will turn into a brawl. Sarcasm or humour is the best way to defuse a situation that could turn ugly.
Finally, I want to say don’t let someone’s negative words affect you. Insulting someone is a reflection of who they are, not you. So let the hate not get to you and use it to your advantage.
Perfectly put. Will try these out now!